The awkward proposal

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My sincere apologies again…life has a funny way of taking over 🙂 Anyway…here is the next one…

So I arrived in India before him, because he had to work. I had gone to a store and already picked out my engagement ring because I did not want him to spend too much on a ring. So me being the completely non-traditional bride to be, picked out an eternity band instead of the usual solitaire.

He arrived in time to experience the Indian rush hour traffic. He sat quietly till we got home. I think he was a little shook up with the traffic, which was not that bad. But for a foreigner who had never left the confines of his country, this must have been quite a shock to his system. He made it clear that he would never be able to drive in India.

Well, I am going to hand over this piece to him to finish up: (disclaimer: he thinks he is funny)

HIS WORDS: “I came to India intent on conquering my first land and with my victory, bringing back a bride as my trophy.  I walked onto the tarmac at the airport to throngs of screaming fans chanting “#1 Gora ! #1 Gora !” I signed autographs and took the first selfies ever in India while I waited for Salimeh to retrieve the luggage and put it into the dickie(trunk) of the car.”

Okay that is about how far I will let him write…clearly this is funny to him.

So the deal with him coming to India was to propose for my hand in marriage. Awkward because while my dad and he were smoking a cigarette, he quickly asked my dad, and my dad said yes. Of course, he forgot to ask my mother who is just as important to me, not sure why he bypassed the CEO of the house. Then he and I went for a late night coffee and he was fumbling. I asked him if he was going to propose or not, and he finally got down on one knee and asked me.

I know, I’m boring, but I hate surprises, hence we did the shopping together, and I could not understand what he was waiting for. Like I mentioned, I was the non-traditional bride to be.

Anyway, formalities were complete. So in a day mom organized a small dinner for us. Only in India, can this be done so quick. We had close family and friends with us, but I missed having my school and college friends with me. The stay in India was too short, and I knew the next time I would visit, I would be a married woman. Oh boy, marriage and me!!! Let’s see what happens….

Oh, and I obviously said yes.

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Future addition to our family…The Gora
Family after my engagement

On to 2017….

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So at the end of 2015 something happened to me. I have no idea what, but I felt a change come over me. I cannot explain how, why, or when, but it was for the good. In my past blogs I wrote a little about the lows in my life, and how it affected me very deeply. This new, strange feeling was like a weight being lifted off my shoulders. Why it happened, I have no clue. But I had never felt so good about myself, the way I looked, or even what I said. I basically did not give a shit anymore. I fell in love with someone so special who could make or break me and it was none other than me.

Took me long enough to realize that I was the only one who could fix me, and no one else could. There are people who thrive on others misery, then there are your well wishers who always have your back no matter what. But the only one person that mattered was myself. “I” had to get out of this rut and fix myself and no one else could do this for me. Even my closest ones never really knew what I was going through and how I almost did not make it.

But as I sit here with 2016 winding down, all I can say is WOW! what a fantastic 2016 it has been. I have enjoyed every single moment of it. Making new friends, making more memories with my son, traveling, meeting old friends, got a new job and even had major reconstructive surgery. I survived 2016, well another couple of hours to go.

But I do want to give some credit to one person. Sometime during 2015, I reconnected with someone I had not heard from in 20 some years. This person became a confidante. I could talk about my worries, my fears and was never judged by this person. On one such occasion as I was chatting with this person, I penned my first blog and it felt good. Then I was on a roll, and started on my life story which was so therapeutic. Not being a writer, and being able to pen everything from my heart helped me tremendously. I was also introduced to yoga, meditation and something called the Isha Kriya. I was happy, and I had full control of my emotions again. I was comfortable discussing anything and everything with this person. I wish everyone finds one such person in their life. 

So as I get ready to welcome 2017, I am hoping for a much more positive year, a fun year and most of all a fulfilling year. So wishing you all an amazing 2017 and may we all have more adventures, volunteer more, and be kind to one another.